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Can "good head" be taught?
5:45PM on January 31, 2012

Last night, hubby and I were relaxing together, sipping on a little something. We were on the same page; both of us feeling horny, and when the drinks kicked in we were really charged up and ready to go. The air was full of sexual energy as our conversation shifted to talk of interesting situations we imagined being in, and how those scenarios could potentially play out.

We decided to turn on the video camera, and next thing I knew he was eating my pussy and ass like his life depended on it. Afterwards, as I lay there coming down from the wave of ecstasy I had been riding, I started thinking about the fact that there are people out there who just don't give head for whatever reason. It is unimaginable to me how a person in a healthy relationship, sharing a mutual attraction with their mate, could opt to NOT please their partner orally. If you follow me on Twitter, go back through my timeline and you'll see my tweets in regards to that on Apr. 21.

As a result of those tweets, one of my followers asked me "How can you teach a female to give good head?" With Twitter's 140 character limit and the fact that I 'retweeted with comment', I didn't give myself much space for a lengthy response. I replied to him saying, "I believe it's about desire and a couple tips including what YOU like." After just having good sex and being tipsy, not to mention how late it was getting, I wasn't in the mental place to elaborate, but I want to do so now.

I don't claim to be a sexpert by far. I can only speak from my experiences, relationships, preferences, and conversations I've personally had with others. This is why I LOVE my relationship with my husband. We actually talk to each other! Talk about any and everything.

My point is: communication is key.

In regards to women giving head; communication is key. First of all, you can't expect her to be pumped about something she doesn't want to do. If she doesn't want to give you head, it's probably not going to be good, and you can't "teach" her how to do it better. She doesn't want to be taught. Like I told my follower on Twitter, she has to have the desire. That desire to give you head can be the result of a few different things in differing combinations. She could be extremely attracted to you, just horny as hell and you were the lucky recipient of her lust, she could just like giving head, or respect you so much that she wants to please you in every possible way she can.

I'm going to answer the question right now, based on my personal experience. Yes. I believe a person can be taught how to give good head, but it will not happen overnight. With the desire to want to give you head present, being able to openly communicate with each other is another piece to the puzzle. Learn how to talk to her. Have objective conversations where you allow her into your thoughts. Share with her your preferences, past experiences, techniques that take you over the edge... When you both have open minds, and are receptive to what each other is saying, information will flow freely between the two of you. She will have insight into exactly how you like your dick to be sucked, and she will be equipped with the tools to do the job right.

Mastering a few tips over time like not using teeth, relaxing the back of your throat and continuing to breathe, gaining control over the gag reflex, and keeping the dick wet will help improve her skills. Besides these things, I think it is important to reiterate something I said earlier about respect.

This last point is for you gentlemen. You have to earn the respect of the woman you are expecting to suck your dick. If you have a good woman that you plan on keeping, she has to be able to look at you with admiration, adoration, lust, and most importantly respect in her eyes. Do whatever it is you need to do in certain aspects of your life to gain her respect. With that respect, her desire for you, and her insight into your preferences, the head should be great!

SS

How I like to get off
5:21PM on April 18, 2011

When I have a certain type of free time and I'm planning to masturbate during that time, there is something specific that I love to do. By free time I mean I'm off of work, housework is done, no meals to prepare, television is off, and I'm by myself with not a care in the world.

I will grab my laptop and head right to my favorite site to read erotic stories. I'm a bookworm at heart. There will always be a special place in my heart for books; even more special if that book is full of hot, steamy sex scenes, lol! Whatever I'm in the mood for at the time, be it lesbian stories, pregnancy stories, group sex stories, ebony gay male stories, hermaphrodite stories, the list goes on...

Relaxing back in my chair, putting my feet up, the stories I read take my mind on such an adventure and get my pussy so wet as I get into each story. I'll take my bra off and throw on a comfy t-shirt and feel my nipples getting hard through my shirt as I read. Occasionally, I'll tease my nipples to keep them hard as the story gets good, reach down and feel the wetness of my pussy coming through my panties...

I've prolonged my excitement and kept myself on the edge of cumming for hours sometimes! Some of the best orgasms I've had reading erotic stories were when the scenarios created in my mind caused me to cum without touching my pussy. Just clenching my thighs together, squeezing my pussy and lightly rubbing my nipples while reading has given me some delicious orgasms!

Private time is so necessary! Always find ways to stay into yourself, in touch with your sexuality and having a good sense of what turns you on and really gets you going. I love discovering new fetishes and kinks. I do the same thing with porn. I'll sit and watch porn when I have free "private" time, and keep myself charged up for a long time before I finally have that orgasm that almost knocks me out, lol. I think sexy fun is the best kind of fun to have. Don't you???

The Beginnings of my First Fetish
11:57PM on January 12, 2009

The thing I love the most about reading is how it enhances your imagination and gives you new things to fantasize about. I can get engrossed in a hot, sexy read and it can get me much wetter than a porno. So I was on this site reading stories, and I generally stayed in the lesbian category because as much as I like being with another sexy woman, I like to read about interesting girl/girl scenarios as well. I started reading this one story, and didn't realize until I started reading it that it was about a pregnant woman. Even more curious to see the story unfold, I kept reading and got more and more turned on. My heart went out to the woman who was half-way through her pregnancy and crazy with unfullfilled sexual desires. Her husband was no longer attracted to her swollen body, which left her lacking intimacy and horny as hell! One of her good friends came over to visit, and she gave her a massage to ease the lower back pain. As she enjoyed the massage from her friend, she realized that she was getting turned on and that her pussy was soaking wet. It's pretty obvious how this story ends, and by the end of it I had two fingers in my pussy and the other hand twirling a nipple between two fingers. This was the beginning of my pregnant fetish...                                                                                                                                                              

Reaction to double-sided dildo and strap-on experiences
7:26PM on October 19, 2008

Hey everyone...it has been a while, I know. I wrote a blog awhile ago saying how much I would like to experience a double-sided dildo. Well, since then I've experienced a double-sided dildo and a strap-on! The first time with each was not recorded, and happened with a very sexy friend of mine (you know who you are).  I'm going to talk to yall about my second experiences with each, that I've recorded for you. Check out the vids on my page!

Double-sided Dildo

I don't even know where to begin, lol! My friend and I wanted each other so much, there was so much built up passion and sexual energy in the air...by the time we pulled out the dildo, we were both ready to explode. It was so not even about the dildo, it just provided us with an object that brought us closer together. It was a shorter dildo, which had us grabbing onto each other in our efforts to fill our pussies as much as we could. My eyes were locked on my friend as I watched her, just inches away from me throwing her head back and moaning, experiencing the same pleasure that I was. As I grinded my pussy close to hers, taking in more of that dildo, I could reach out and grab her titties and suck on her nipples...we grabbed each other's thighs as both of our orgasms approached, and it was the sexiest thing cumming together with my friend, then licking our juices off of the dildo...

Strap-on

My first experience with a strap-on, I was receiving, and I never thought that I would ever be the strappee, lol! Looking at my man's dick, I always wondered it must feel like to have a dick swinging between your legs...so easy to touch and stroke, having that bulge right there, so easy to see with the right pants or shorts on. One day we just bought the strap-on, and the next thing I knew, I was strapping in getting ready for a fun night! I just had to get this on video; me fucking with a strap-on!

How did I feel in the act? I felt so powerful! Once I got the hang of it, lol. When she turned around and I slide it in and started moving behind her, I felt all of the control and power that I know guys must feel when they're fucking. One thing I know now is much work it is! I could feel myself getting tired, but the adrenaline was pushing me on, and I kept going as long as I could. The whole time I kept wondering how it looked...I was dying to see the video, lol! I was in control of how much pleasure I was giving my friend and I wanted to give it to her good! Thinking back on that night the most prevalent memory I have is how in control and powerful I felt, yet still sexy. It was hot...can't wait to do it again

Yall might see a little series of vids with the strap-on. Just be prepared, lol! I loved that double-sided dildo, and there are some special rude friends that I would love to invite over for a sexy night with that little toy...


Ladies, I would love to hear about any experiences you've had with either of these toys.

A Hot Relaxin Bubble Bath
8:41PM on March 28, 2008

After a very long Friday at work, I am finally home and ready to get my weekend started! Getting ready to go out, so I decided to slip into the tub for a quick soak. I looooovvvvvvveeeee love bubble baths!!! It feels wonderful to climb into a tub of water and oils that is sooo hot that I almost can't stand it. I ease in slowly, and invite the heated water to a dance with my skin. (I'm actually in the tub while I'm writing this, okay yall?  Sexy Secret is multi-talented ) I lay back and sway my body slowly and let the water undulate back and forth over my body. This is the point where I open my legs and let the water make full contact with my pussy. I can't do it while I'm typing, but my mind wanders back to what I usually do in the tub...

I slip my hands down between my legs and spread my pussy wide, letting the hot water dance with my clit for a while. The water and I have an incredible time playing with my clit! I slide down into the tub as low as I can go, and I begin to grind on my fingers, slipping a couple of fingers inside of my pussy. With my other hand I play with my nipples, getting them nice and wet. The wetness of my nipples helps get them hard and stiff immediately, and I find myself close to cumming in almost no time. Little, soft sounds escape from my throat, and in the next moment I can't hold it back and I'm moaning loudly as the orgasm overtakes my body!

I love bathtime! Gotta wash up and get outta here soon so I can get my weekend started. I'm sure I'll have some stories to tell later....



SS

Double-sided Dildos
3:59AM on March 08, 2008

I am very interested in using a double-sided dildo. I'd like to hear experiences from any ladies that have used one before. Are they pretty easy to use or not? It looks like it might take more work than one might think.

I have a vivid fantasy of me and a sexy friend of mine, both grinding our wet pussies close to each other at opposite ends of a thick, long dildo. My imagination is running wild and my pussy is starting to soak my panties as I write this...

Such an erotic and passionate picture the two of us would make, so wrapped up in the intensity of the experience. Cumming together would be amazing! I can't wait to try it!!!

A Day in the Office...Wandering Eyes
3:44AM on March 08, 2008

So, I have a corporate job with a very professional atmosphere. Thoughout the day I go about my business, completing my tasks and coordinating with co-workers when necessary. One thing that I can't help is that I am very aware of people. Aware of their body language, eye contact, what may lie in their line of sight...

One particular day a couple months ago, I got to work for a meeting in the morning a little late. I made my way to the meeting table in a rush and dropped my things, taking off my suit jacket and settling in after making my apologies for being late. The first thing I noticed next was my VP throwing glances in my direction. Immediately I knew he was looking at my cleavage. I was wearing a form-fitting wrap shirt with a plunging "V" neckline, and I knew my chest was distracting him. Throughout the meeting, I would find reasons to lean over the desk and reach for something, creating a more direct view of my rack. I kept glancing up and catching him trying to divert his eyes away from my chest. It caused this little stirring deep down inside of me; it was exciting knowing that I had this control over one of my bosses!