Lap Dance Etiquette
12:35AM on February 28, 2009

Lap dance bars: Can you think of anything more perfect? Almost-naked beautiful women, beer... OK, that's all we've got so far, but you have to admit that's all pretty close to perfect.

However, you can't just walk into a strip joint and act the way your caveman brain is telling you. No jumping on the nearest piece of flesh -- there are rules to follow.

While lap dance etiquette is inevitably stacked (pun not intended) in favor of the girls, these rules also benefit you. Be respectful and you'll be allowed back into this little slice of paradise. The alternative? Your butt will make friends with the curb outside the club very quickly.

Know the house rules
Every strip joint has its own rules. These rules are written in stone. If the big, flashing sign on the wall says "No Touching," you can bet your ass that your hands will not be an exception to the rule. Every cell in your body might be telling you not to sit on your sweaty little palms while a semi-naked girl grinds your thigh, but if that's what you've got to do, then that's what you've got to do, period.

The simplest way to maintain proper lap dance etiquette form is to follow the house rules as if they were the Ten Commandments. If you don't, your face, wallet and raging libido won't be welcome there again.

Be clean
This is another glaring, do-not-ever-break rule of lap dance etiquette. Don't turn up smelling like a dead homeless dude. Before you head out, shower and prep as if you were heading out on a date. In fact, take it one step further because you know you'll be getting up-close and personal with someone.

The key to lap dance etiquette is to make it pleasant for your dancer. Make sure you smell good and banish any bad breath you suspect you might have. However, you also don't want to overdo it. Drenching yourself in cologne is worse than not wearing any at all. Present yourself as you would to a potential date -- we're not suggesting she's going to go home with you at the end of the night, but you want to make sure that, at very least, she's enjoying her work.

Have money
Never turn up to a strip bar with just enough money for beer. If you're going there intending to have a dance, this is a bit of a no-brainer. However, even if you're just heading out with the boys -- with no intention of enjoying the delights on offer -- proper lap dance etiquette suggests you should always pack a few extra bills.

The last thing you want is to be presented with the opportunity for a dance from an absolute goddess only to have to turn it down because you didn't follow proper lap dance etiquette and bring enough cash. It's not just the frustration that'll get you down; by the time you've finished counting the loose change in your wallet, every girl in the place will have you pegged as "the poor guy" and will avoid you like an STI.

She's not a therapist
You might well be spending your time getting dances from lovely ladies because everything else in your life is quickly going down the toilet and it's your last source of real happiness. Your woman bailed on you and took your car, but left you with a suspicious itch, and the only thing that can distract you now is a nubile body gyrating inches away -- but leave the therapeutic benefits of the strip tease at that.

Lap dancers aren't paid to listen to you gripe about your ex, your job or your health problems. Do you like it when random strangers start telling you their personal woes? Sure, some form of social interaction is needed before she rubs her heavenly body against you, but proper lap dance etiquette means you need to keep it light and casual. Lap dancers are, after all, there for the lap dances -- not for meaningful conversations.

No grabbing
Occasionally, just occasionally, you'll come across the epitome of perfection in the lap dance world: a bar that lets you touch the girl. They really do exist. You may have to travel out of state or even internationally until you stumble across one, but they really are out there.

However, finding one is no excuse to go crazy. Maintain proper lap dance etiquette and be respectful -- this means absolutely no pawing at her. It works better for you too, believe it or not. Half the fun of a lap dance is the restraint and frustration, which goes straight out the window the second you have half her boob in your hand. So, no lunging at her as if she were a piece of prime rib at a buffet, please.
No crazy requests
Everyone has those strange sexual tastes that aren't quite vanilla. That dark, seedy side you want to explore, only you don't know how to bring it up with your woman at home. Well, the strip joint is no place to bring it up either.

Believe it or not, a strip club is not a place where anything goes. You might harbor a foot fetish and feel the need to ask your lap dancer to rub her feet on your groin, but that's not part of her job description. Likewise, anything involving props, detailed role-play or strange outfits isn't going to happen -- she's not a prostitute; she's a dancer, a performer, and you need to remember this. There are places out there that do offer women on staff who can fulfill your sexual fantasies, but a strip joint is not that place.

She isn't a ho
Lap dancers get paid to dance on stage and in your lap. Even if we all know this isn't always the case, you should assume that it is. Don't walk in there expecting to get any extras out of the deal, and don't embarrass yourself by waving a wad of bills around and demanding she come to the back with you for a more "intense" session.

In the real world, some girls will give you more than a dance -- if the price is right. We're not condoning this, and frankly you should be setting your sights higher, but if you want to pay a lap dancer to sleep with you, you have to wait until she offers to do it. And if she doesn't offer, you aren't getting any and you need to stick to proper lap dance etiquette and realize she can't be bought that way.

Always tip
OK, so you've already paid for the dance, but what's the rule on tipping? Is service included in the bill? Is it always 10%? Do you only give it if the dance was good?

The simple rule is: Always tip. Be honest; there's no such thing as a "bad" lap dance, and they only get better the more you tip. Remember, the dancers are only there to make money and if word gets around that you're a tipper, you'll get increasingly hotter dances as they compete for your hard-earned cash. Just don't expect to leave with anything other then the shirt on your back by the end of the night.

cock-tease conduct
Lap dance etiquette isn't quite what they teach at British finishing schools, however, it'll serve guys like us for future reference when it comes to enjoying strip joints and all they have to offer. Just don't let these very specific etiquette rules spill over into the rest of your life: The clerk at the 7-Eleven will not appreciate an extra $5 bill tucked into her cleavage -- take it from someone who knows.

By Derek North

3Some Rules
12:29AM on February 28, 2009

There's a whole lot of information on how to arrange a threesome, but there's very little about what you should do once you're in one.

Threesomes are not like regular sex -- they require both imagination and sensitivity. If you plan on having a threesome, you need to go into the situation with some idea of what you're going to be doing, you need some threesome rules.

Understanding these basic threesome rules will help you avoid some common mistakes that typically prevent you from getting the most out of your ménage à trois. There are various types of threesomes that you can enjoy, but we're betting that you're hoping for the type with two women, one of whom is likely your bisexual or bi-curious girlfriend or wife. What follows are the basic threesome rules on how to handle such a delectable, and potentially sticky, sexual situation.

threesome rule no. 1
Establish the rules
You're going to have sex with two women and all three of you have your own rules and limits, so understanding and respecting one another's comfort levels should be a top priority when you're establishing your threesome rules.

Because your relationship with your woman will likely be affected by this new experience, you need to be absolutely clear on which acts she's comfortable with -- and what to avoid doing -- in advance. She may tell you that she's uncomfortable with the idea of you penetrating another woman or even pleasing another woman orally.

You must respect her limits. Remember that each woman may suddenly feel jealous, so try your best not to shut either woman out and always give more attention to the woman with whom you have a relationship -- this is an extremely important threesome rule.

As well, you may end up feeling jealous if you're not the center of attention. Just keep in mind that the object of the game is to share sex between three people.

Also, remember that although some people try to drink their way to bravery for a threesome, drunken sex usually ends up being bad sex. If you want to have a cocktail or two to loosen up, that's fine, but no more. You want to be at peak performance.

threesome rule no. 2
Be as giving as you can
Although you may be hoping that the two women will give you 100% of their attention, the truth is that they're there to please each other just as much as they're there to please you. You may end up feeling ignored and should do your best to get over it.

The best way to approach this situation, and an important threesome rule to follow, is to forget your feelings for a moment and try to be as generous with your hands and mouth as you can.

Pleasure in one-on-one sex goes back and forth, but in a threesome it's more of a cycle that moves from person to person. So be patient; focus on turning both women on and the attention will come back to you.

Whatever pleasure you get in a threesome is a treat, so instead of expecting anything in particular (like getting oral sex from both women at once), enjoy everything that comes your way.

Keeping your hands moving and knowing when to penetrate are important threesome rules...

threesome rule no. 3
Keep yourself busy
When you find that both women are busy pleasuring each other and you have nothing to do, keep yourself busy. Take matters into your own hands and find something to do.

Caress the breasts, thighs or vagina(s) of one or both women, kiss their backs or necks, or give oral sex to one if she's in a position that allows you to (believe us, this will redirect attention toward you in a hurry).

If you decide instead just to pleasure yourself for a little while, don't feel bad; the action will come back to you soon enough.

threesome rule no. 4
Be careful with penetration
Penetration is what novelist Tom Robbins calls "that old show-stopper." It automatically forms a serious bond between you and one woman, leaving the other out. For this reason, penetrate only when you're sure both women are comfortable with it.

Your natural inclination will be to pay close attention to the woman you're having sex with, but you mustn't focus on her entirely. This is about the three of you, so keep that ideal close at hand. Kiss and touch the other woman, look her in the eye, and talk to her if the mood is appropriate.

Be aware that you may feel overwhelmed with pleasure if you're thrusting into one woman and kissing and caressing another, meaning that you might climax more quickly than expected. Take it slowly and pace yourself.

And don't get so excited that you lose track of the women: All three of you should be sexually satisfied and, even if you achieve climax first, you must do everything you can to bring your two partners to orgasm.

threesome rule no. 5
Be safe
Condoms are a necessity, obviously. Semen, vaginal fluid and menstrual blood transmit STDs, so use one specific hand to pleasure one specific woman and use the other hand on the other woman -- and keep it that way. You must never alternate.

Likewise, if you're having intercourse with both women, you must also use a separate condom with each partner. As well, dental dams are a good precaution for oral sex. Lubricate the side that you place against a woman's skin for better sensation.

it's not a relationship
Afterward, lie around with both women in post-coital bliss. However, remember it's not a relationship. This means that the third person likely shouldn't sleep over. It may seem like a great idea in the moment, but prolonging a threesome is a recipe for total disaster.

Be reassuring to your girlfriend or wife. You've had fun, but it's only pleasure and experimentation. Tell her that she turns you on, that seeing her being pleasured by another woman aroused you, and that while you enjoyed yourself, there's no one for you but her. She's your primary concern, so if you let her know it, you may well have more threesome adventures in the future.

By Chris Ford

Foreplay the Tantra Way
6:26PM on January 20, 2009

Tantra is not goal oriented. Tantra is a process of aligning your own energies and then intermingling them with another. Therefore, sex need not be a linear process – one step leading to the next, culminating in orgasm. Granted, orgasms are wonderful experiences but if that’s the only reason you’re having sex you might be missing a few things in the process. When most people think of the term foreplay they get caught up in this type of linear thought. The name says it all; foreplay is "before" the main event. It’s the act many people learn to rush through to get to their orgasmic reward. But what if sexplay (not foreplay) was enjoyable no matter what phase of the process you were in?

Imagine a world where you remove the expectation of orgasm. A world in which you learn to linger in the details of communing with another human being; you become attuned to the nuances of the other person and your body’s own reaction to various stimulation. There is no beginning, no end; just a vortex of touch and feeling swirling around and through you. Sounds blissful, doesn’t it?

Through Tantric sexplay, you can become bonded to your partner in ways you never thought possible, because suddenly they aren’t just a receptacle for sexual desire. They become a part of your energetic process. You can learn to align and synchronize your energy, but regardless of working with your chakras there are simple ways in which you can turn humdrum foreplay into thrilling sexplay…and intercourse may not even be involved. The common assumption is that desire must precede sexplay. Not so. If you can be conscious about it and seek out sexplay whether you’re feeling desire or not, you can ultimately create desire. There are schools of thought that say that for many people (women in particular) – if left to their own devices and hectic schedules of everyday life – sexual desire will not come naturally. The issue is that women are waiting to desire sex. If they don’t desire it, they don’t have it. The suggestion here is to find time for sexplay whether or not you feel like it. Because once most people are engaged in the moment and their bodies begin to respond, desire bubbles up on its own. Taking time out to have "play" dates or even "play" moments is what makes Tantric sexplay so profound.

The writer of the Kama Sutra (the 3,000 year old sex manual) says, "Because they belong to the same species, man and woman seek the same pleasure in sexual relations. This is why desire must first be stimulated by preliminary attentions." He also suggests music and games that get lovers into the mood before retiring for more physical contact. This includes talking about sex, a lost art for most modern lovers. Sexplay is not simply, "rubbing her clitoris and kissing her a few times." As a general rule, women may take slightly longer to arouse for intercourse than men. Devoting more time to exploring her body equals more lubrication and a more comfortable union.

Another good idea is to remove the requirement of orgasm for the next few sessions. You can do things to focus on simply giving or receiving touch, whether it’s an oil massage or spooning naked in bed with candles. You may also decide that you will skip intercourse at times. That is Tantric sexplay at its best. The only expectation you’ll need will be to feel centered within yourself and bonded with your partner.

You can even decide to have sexplay in public. This doesn’t mean what you think it might. Decide to flirt and caress. Go somewhere sexually charged like a sexy concert, or erotic gallery opening. T he reason the word "play" is in both foreplay and sexplay is because it is playful and fun. Let the rest of the world’s commitments slip away between the two of you.

In general, be sure to explore all areas of one another’s body. There are a plethora of erogenous zones. If there’s a nerve ending, there’s a way to make that place feel amazing. Work with your partner and map out your bodies. It’s a lifelong process neither of you will forget. And please realize sensations change on a day-to-day basis. So always look for feedback from your beloved. Learn to verbalize and give information on what is working and what isn’t. Don’t forget to incorporate some breathing exercises. Learn to breathe fully and deeply on your own, then coordinate with your partner. Get into positions where you can feel one another’s body inflate with air and then relax. Breathing is a cornerstone of Tantra and once you learn to do it with your partner you can literally begin to feel every cell wake up in your body. It’s a very sexy thing to do and it makes sex and orgasm even more intense.

Use all of your senses – taste, touch, listen, smell, watch. There is something to be said for John Mayer’s song "Your Body is a Wonderland" because it is! It’s your own personal amusement park. Sure you can ride only the big roller coaster but you’re missing out if you aren’t enjoying the other rides as well. Tantric sexplay is your ticket to them all.

Women’s Empowerment Through Adult Entertainment
6:24PM on January 20, 2009

The term “adult entertainment” has long been seen as somewhat of a euphemism - adult entertainment, commentators have argued, is really entertainment for men. Whether as workers or consumers, women who are involved in adult industries are often seen as degraded, exploited, and even as psychologically damaged.

Recently, however, women have begun speaking out about their experiences in the sex industry, either as workers or as entrepreneurs, and they have been telling a different story. Certainly, sex work is not a utopic form of labor and there are downsides to working in the industry - just as there are in any kind of occupation. Yet many sex workers also talk about the possibility of personal empowerment through the adult entertainment industry in memoirs like Heidi Mattson’s Ivy League Stripper or Lily Burana’s Strip City, in academic texts like Whores and Other Feminists and Jane Sexes It Up, in documentaries like Live Nude Girls Unite, in television interviews, in journalistic pieces, and on their own websites. Tracy Quan’s Diary of a Manhattan Call Girl is a fictional account of the adventures of an ambitious New York City hooker, but provides a fascinating and realistic look at the work experiences of a certain class of sex worker.

How might adult entertainment be empowering for women? Women working as escorts, street prostitutes, strippers, masseuses, web seductresses, professional dominatrixes, phone sex operators, and pornographic actresses and models of course encounter different kinds of downsides and benefits from the sex industry. Yet, over and over again women have been arguing that the sex industry offers them a number of opportunities that they cannot often find in other jobs: the freedom to set their own hours (especially appreciated by single moms and college students); the ability to control many of the terms of their employment; and the significant financial benefits (many women earn more in a day doing sex work than they could earn in a week at a “regular” job). Some women also believe that sex work allows them to dictate the terms of their objectification by men — if it is inevitable that they will be seen as sex objects, why not charge money for it? Though one still unfortunately finds women working in different sectors of the adult entertainment industry only because they have no better options for employment, many other women are now doing sex work because they actually enjoy the work; or, at least, enjoy it more than other kinds of jobs they have considered. Some women also find opportunities for self-expression and artistic or spiritual release in different kinds of sex work.

Women are now taking the initiative in many different kinds of sex related businesses as entrepreneurs as well, and have begun capitalizing on their ability to draw in female as well as male consumers. Historically one could find ambitious madams running their own bawdy houses and escort services; currently, women are also developing interactive adult internet sites, editing pornographic magazines and directing erotic and educational sex videos, and managing businesses that specialize in sex toys (for sale in the home, Tupperware-party style, or in stores). Some women, of course, blur the boundaries between entertainer and entrepreneur, and stars like Jenna Jameson and Danni Ashe have almost become household names.

It is important to recognize that there are still many downsides to working in the industry. Though the stigma of sex work may be lessening, at least in certain parts of the industry, it can still cause problems for the employees even years later. Because adult entertainment is focused on youth, long-term stability is missing for employees. Employees may also face poor working conditions and have difficulties organizing because of their desire to remain anonymous or their short term approach to the work. Few adult companies provide health benefits for the employees. Further, sex work often requires difficult physical labor - whether one is working as an escort, actress, or stripper — and may be debilitating over time. Finally, the inequalities that structure other kinds of work experience also come into play in the adult industries — those individuals who are relatively privileged in terms of race and class will likely remain so.

Significant changes lie ahead, however, as more women choose to work in the adult entertainment industry or to use their business skills to take an entrepreneurial approach to the businesses. As women also continue to grow in numbers as both producers and consumers of sexually oriented services and products, who knows what new fantasies will be expressed?

Sex Toy Advice (Phthlates)
4:45PM on December 28, 2008

What a joy it is to see someone paying attention to the regulation of sex toys!

The adult industry has been unregulated for such a long time, where the rule until now has pretty much been "if a toy sells, it is good". Health has never been much of a concern …until now.


Phthalates... (pronounced tha-lates), are responsible for making plastic sex toys bendy, giving them that flesh-like quality. But are those chemicals posing a health risk to sex toy users? In the last few years some individuals and publications are trying to convince us there is a severe health risk from these toys of pleasure.

What do Phthalates do?
Phthalates are a family of chemicals used to make plastic softer and pliable. They are found everywhere, from household products such as lunch boxes, children's toys, cosmetics and medication to sex toys.

Studies on animals have shown high levels of phthalates interfere with hormone production. They have been found to mimic female sex hormones, and when consumed in high enough levels can lead to fertility issues (poor semen quality), affect brain development and eventually can cause liver and kidney damage. This is especially true for budding young rodents and pregnant mom and dad rats.

What are the risks to budding young humans?
The health risk is evident in tiny animals, but after years of study the facts on humans is still inconclusive.

In 2004 Brussels banned "soft" toys known to contain "phthalates". They chose to target teethers and pacifiers because the exposure is concentrated as children put them in their mouths for 3-4 hours at a time. They worried that the length of time the children were exposed to the chemicals could alter hormone levels.

The evidence of phthalates in sex toys.
In 2006, after two independent studies the European Commission ruled against doing the same thing for banning sex toys, the Spokesman stating, "There is no evidence that sex toys are used in such a way and for such a time as to generate a comparable risk."

A sex toy survey sponsored by Greenpeace found the levels of phthalates were higher in sexual toys than children's toys, but because of how sex toys are used and the age of the user " the risk of phthalates 'migrating' into the body is far lower", the European Commission responded.

The most recent news comes from the Danish environmental Protection Agency. They found that using sex toys containing high levels of phthalates posed no health risk if used for 1 hour per day or less. Safety issues remain ambiguous for pregnant or nursing women.

What makes phthalates unhealthy: More detail for those who want to details.
There are two ways to make up a plastic. Combinations result from chemical reactions between molecules resulting in strong bonds. Mixtures, on the other hand, happen when two substances are physically blended (i.e. oil and vinegar). With time the mixtures "un-blend" and become separate again. Phthalates are mixtures blended with plastics. After time the phthalates separate, they smell, become gummy and literally fall apart emitting little bits of themselves.

The problem is that some manufacturers of sex toys cannot reliably tell you whether their products contain phthalates or not as many companies send their designs away to China and India to be manufactured.

How YOU can identify phthalate-laden toys?
If you are buying yourself a nice shiny new toy and want to know if it contains the dreaded phthalates, ask yourself the following questions:

· Does it smell horribly like chemicals?

· Is it pliable?

· Is it made of plastic?

· Is it unusually inexpensive?

If you answer with 2 or more yes's it probably contains phthalates. In general if it is soft or pliable, and smells bad it is likely to contain phthalate.

Manufacturers are still using Phthalates because it is a cheap way to get the material to be the right consistency. Phthalate products are often less expensive. As you move up the quality chain, the percentage of phthalate-laden toys decreases dramatically.


What are your options?
1. Silicone: Wonderful, flexible, sexy toys are being made with medical grade silicone. These are body safe.

2. Elastomers: The two largest sex toy manufacturers in the US are starting to include "phthalate free" labels on their toys to show that even though their toy is flexible and plastic it does not contain excessive levels of phthalates.

3. Glass: Many dildos are made with glass, a beautiful and sleek alternative to plastics.

4. Hard plastic: Just because something is plastic does not make it toxic. It is only the softer plastics that you have to worry about.

5. Use a condom: Have a favorite toy that seems to have phthalates, but you don't know for sure and don't want to take the chance? Use a condom over it. And write us and ask us to find out for you.


The Future of Sex Toys.
The bright side to this confusion is that, although unsubstantiated, these claims are causing the adult toy manufacturers to pay attention. This January at the largest adult trade show the big guns in toy manufacturing, Doc Johnson and Cal Exotics, started to show "phthalate free" labels, and 100% silicone in their sales pitches.

Let's keep phthalates in perspective. Many common household products are laden with phthalates yet they are not being targetted.

Sexual pleasure is good for your health. Sex toys should be too.

How to Breathe for Sex
4:37PM on December 28, 2008

Breathing is key to enhancing your sexual experience. Most people exist in a state of tension obstructing the breath, holding it and forcing it to become shallow. If you are stuck sexually and want to "feel more" a straightforward and effective route is through deeper and more aware breathing.

Breathing has a direct correlation to sexual pleasure. It is easy to do, it requires no special equipment and it brings immediate results such as:
* Increase Arousal
* Increase Intensity
* Increase Sexual Connection with your Partner


Increasing Arousal

Breathing helps you to relax and feel more. Really! When we are tense or anxious our bodies prepare us to run away from or fight a stressful situation. Although modern life has few tigers to run away from anymore, our bodies still respond as if we do.

A worrisome business meeting or an overdue bill can cause muscles to tense up, breathing to become shallow and blood flow to be shunted AWAY from the skin to more vital areas such as muscles and heart.

Basic breathing techniques help to increase sexual arousal by telling the body to stop the stress response and bring blood flow back into the skin. With more blood (which brings oxygen, stimulation, energy and warmth) the skin becomes more sensitive. And part of where we need it most, the genitals.

Step 1: Become aware of your tension.

The first step is to become aware of your tension. Tense muscles of the stomach and pelvis do two things: block proper breathing and block blood flow to sensitive areas. You cannot get breath properly or get aroused if your abdominal or pelvic muscles are tight.
1. Sit comfortably
2. Consciously tense your stomach. Relax. Do this a few times to become aware of any stomach tension.
3. Now, do the same thing while you breathe out.
4. When you reach the point where you need air relax your muscles and breathe in.

Step 2: Deep Belly Breaths.

The natural state that encourages sensation, relaxation and arousal is a deeper breath than the shallow ones we rely on normally.
1. Lie on your back with your legs bent, feet on the floor.
2. Take one breath in for four seconds feeling the air fill the entire lung and down into the belly. Let the belly expand. Push out the belly as much as you can. Wait four seconds.
3. Breathe out letting the belly deflate first, then the lungs. Force out every last bit of breath. Do this four times.

Step 3: Bring focus to your genitals.

Practice breathing deeply to draw blood flow and awareness to the areas of the body vital to sexual pleasure.

Include your pelvic muscles. You will bring oxygen, warmth and energy to all the right places:
a. Consciously tense your PC muscles. Hold for a few seconds (as if you are stopping the flow of urine). Relax. Do this a few times to get used to the feeling.
b. Now, tense the PC muscles while you breathe out. Hold for a few seconds. Relax the muscle while you inhale. Relax. Repeat 5 times.

Breathe into the genitals.

Imagine as you breathe in that the breath is going into the pelvis. This may seem a little silly as the breath doesn't actually have a place to go that far down but it is the awareness of the area that does wonders for bringing heat and sensation to the genitals. Your genitals should tingle a little and you should feel "in your body".


Increase Orgasm Intensity

Mimic your orgasm reflex:

1. Lie on your back with your knees bent and feet on the floor.
2. Arch the small of your back, pressing the tailbone down into the floor. Inhale as you arch (3-4 seconds).
3. Breathe out as you flatten small of back to the floor, tilting the tailbone up to the ceiling (3-4 seconds). Relax. Let your throat go and sigh loudly. Ahhhh. Make more sound than you naturally would.

Now, speed up your movements. Your breath no longer will coordinate with your movements. Keep breathing full and long in and out for 5 long breaths while you let your body gyrate, allowing the movements to become faster and almost random. Let your body do whatever feels best.


Increase Intimacy and Sexual Connection

Partnered Breathing.
Breathing together can increase intimacy and bring lovers in synch with their partner.

1. Soulful Gaze.
Sit on the floor facing your partner. Look into each other's eyes. This is not a staring contest, when your eyes get tired close them or look away for a few seconds. Let it happen.

a. Close your eyes for a few minutes while you bring your attention to your own breath. Pay attention to how your chest expands, how your belly moves up and down or how your pelvis naturally tilts.
b. Open your eyes, make eye contact and now pay attention to your partner's breath. Expand your gaze to include their chest. See how it rises and falls. Expand your gaze to include his belly, then pelvis. All the while keeping some eye contact.
c. Have your partner breathe normally. Become aware of his/her breath. Follow it. Breathe in rhythm for a few minutes. Play with your breath together. Don't force it. When you fall out of synch with each other just let it happen. Dance with each other's breath.

2. Synchronized Breathing.
Lie in a spoon position. Relax, get comfy. Breathe naturally.


a. Bring your attention to your partner's breath. Become aware of how their breath sounds. Sense how the breath feels next to your body. Become aware of the rhythm and the depth of their breath.
b. Have the person who is positioned in front lead by initiating the pace of the breath. Take one long breath in filling the lungs and belly letting it rush out of you with a big sigh. Ahhhhh.
c. Have the person in behind follow the rhythm and depth of the breath. Do this a few times.
d. Change roles so the person in the back leads. Repeat

New Years Eve Top Party Places!
1:36PM on December 27, 2008

The world's biggest combined party is New Year's Eve. It starts around Sydney and travels time zone by time zone around the globe like some sort of well-coordinated pre-planned pyrotechnic explosion.

It's the only time when nations, religions, festivals and other regional or local occasions cease to become a factor. Pretty much everyone and everyplace around the globe recognizes the New Year with some type of celebration.

Because of the scale of the night, one eternal question burns: Where is the BEST place to spend this momentous occasion? As the prime purveyors of partying, PubClub.com is proud to answer that question in this Guide to the Best Places to Party on New Year's Eve.

This guide focuses on major city events and parties – official or otherwise – and not private or paid events put on by promoters.

And, in breaking with traditional thinking, we even point out where NOT to celebrate. These are places that would seem to be great spots but, for reasons we point out, just aren't worth the time, money and effort.

One tip: If this is the only night of the year you go out, stay home. Because so many people try and do a year's worth of partying on this one occasion, we like to think of New Year's Eve as Amateur Night. Our advice is simple: If you're gong to drink, drink often.

– PUBCLUB'S TOP 6 NYE PARTY PLACES –

• #1 – NEW ORLEANS. It's got the atmosphere, the proper attitude and the energy. New Orleans is a party just about anytime but New Year's is especially crazy. The Sugar Bowl teams, alumni and students are all in town which just adds to the fun. Going up and down Bourbon Street is the call but at midnight be at the ball drop in Jackson Square. The 2009 Sugar Bowl is Jan. 2 and features Alabama and Utah. There will be lots of "Roll Tide" cheers on Bourbon Street.
Top Tip: Stick to the same color of drink. In the French Quarter, there are a rainbow selection of colored cocktails – blue, red, green, etc. – and the key to avoiding a terrible ending to the night is to pick a color and stay with it.
Weather: We've been in New Orleans on New Year's when it's been warm and when it's been freezing. Check the weather before you go and pack for accordingly.

• #2 – PRAGUE. One of the world's most beautiful cities attracts people from throughout Europe because they know a great party when the see one. Prague is an awesome place to play anytime and on the Big Night it literally explodes. That's because the Czechs just love fireworks. Wander in and out of the many pubs and cafes but at midnight go to Old Town Square or Charles Bridge. Climb the hill to the Prague Castle or the "Stalin statue," where the fireworks are launched for an overview of the whole crazy scene. Prague is unbelievably inexpensive; your crowns go a long. long way. Czech it out!
Top Tip: Watch out for flying fireworks of every size and description.
Weather: The average temperature for January is -1.3C (30F), so it's cold. This makes quick jaunts into the many cafes a requirement.

• #3 – SYDNEY. Take your choice – party on the water, party on the bridge or party in a pub. The first major city to celebrate the coming of the New Year is also one of the best. How good is Sydney? The fireworks end at 12:15 but the celebrations last until dawn.
Top Tip: Wear black. That's the wardrobe color of choice for social Sydneysiders.
Weather: It's summer so pretty warm, but have a light jacket handy.

• #4 – LAS VEGAS. New Year's Eve and Las Vegas are as natural party partners as tequila and lime juice. People pour out from the casinos onto the streets and then after midnight head back to late night – or all-night – gambling, pubbing or clubbing.

It's called America's Party and there's two choices for where to spend the moment, the Strip and downtown at the Fremont Experience. Each has a fireworks show.

The Strip has the younger and single crowd while downtown is mostly – but certainly not exclusively – late 30s and beyond and couples. The Strip is also incredibly crowded in the main area (in front of Caesars and people gather as early as 8 p.m.). The fireworks run down the hotels from Mandalay Bay to the Stratosphere. It will start about 10 minutes before midnight and be timed to the songs "Dancing in the Streets" from Mick Jagger and David Bowie "Taking it to the Streets" from the Doobie Brothers and, finally, Omega Attraktor's "Xterminate."

It's a little different downtown as the "fireworks" are electronic on an overhead canopy. Also called America's Party, this is a closed-off block party and tickets are $20 (free for Nevada residents). It's all pretty casual, just walk in and out of the casinos and shops while drinking cocktails out of football-shaped and sized containers. Tribute bands (Eagles, Queen, U2, Aerosmith, KISS, Rolling Stones, Bill Joel and Davie Bowie) are performing 6 p.m.-1 a.m, on two stages. A light and sound show runs overhead on the lighted "canopy" and confetti showers down at midnight. The gates open at 5:30 (no one under 18 allowed) and some restaurants offer packages for entrance and dinner.

Undecided between The Strip and Fremont? Let this be your guide: If you are in a group of friends and don't want to stray too far from them, do downtown. Traditionally, if you are single and on the prowl, seek The Strip.

Top Tip: Spend three days. Do a casino lounge crawl on the Strip the first night, NYE the second and cap it off by spending a leisurely New Year's Day watching the bowl games at the sports books.
Weather: Warm and pool-side sunny by day, chilly when the sun goes down. Since the party is outside, definitely have a jacket.

• #5 – WHISTLER, B.C. It's a party in the snow. Good beer, great people. Actually, great beer and great people. This awesome ski resort in the Canadian Rockies is good enough anytime and on New Year's it reaches the summit. The Village is buzzing (if you catch our snow drift). Police do check backpacks and purses for alcohol so get your drinks at the bars. Most bars charge $50-150; arrive a couple of days early and find your NYE party spot.
Top Tip: Arrive two days early to scout out your NYE location.
Weather: 20s on the hill, 30s in town (F) unless a sudden unexpected chill hits. This year, Whistler got an early snowfall and the going is great on the slopes.

• #6 – RIO, BRAZIL. Rio, it's not just for Carnival. House parties give way to massive celebrations on the beaches – 5 million people in all. At Copacabana Beach alone, 2 1/2 million gather on the sand and in the roads, which are closed to traffic. Copacabana is illuminated by thousands of candles as Christian and Afro-Brazilian religions mix and make promises for the new year. Keep in mind it's summer in Brazil which means beaches, beauties and steamy nights – and nightlife.
Top Tip: Book early; most hotels are sold out by September.
Weather: Winter temperatures run from 25º C (77º F) to 42º C (108º F). There's a reason the Brazilian thong was born here.

– OTHER FUN NYE LOCATIONS –

• Amsterdam. The place to hang is Nieuwmarkt (Newmarket) Square. Fireworks are everywhere; there's nothing official, mind you, just people setting off their own (often in several directions at once). The madness starts around 2300 and goes until roughly 0200. There's several cafes nearby. The Rembrantsplein, Leidseplein and Dam Square also have gatherings (and lots of cafes). Regardless of location, locals and tourists hit the streets with a bottle of champagne; at midnight there's a big cheer and people share drinks from their bottles. This being Amsterdam, there is also a Hooker's Ball in the Red Light District.

For a bar party, local promoters Flash and Matty Boy (you read that right) are.taking over the entire W Hotel for a major bash. This very upscale event includes dinner, a bottle, VIP table, live music, the works. Packages start at $1,700.

Top Tip: Go out with a bottle of champagne.
Weather: Cold. Rain is a possibility.

• Honolulu. What could be more cool than fireworks over Waikiki Beach? There are dozens of professional shows here as well as in Palolo Valley, Pauoa Valley and Kalihi Valley. There are also lots of amateurs firing off fireworks with varying degrees of ability. This lasts from from about 11-2. The advantage of Waikiki, of course, is the ocean and the proximity to a number of bars in the area. The strip is closed to traffic and it's a block party with food, drinks and entertainment. Honolulu is the last major city to celebrate NYE, by the way. Note to would-be revelers: State law requires a $25 permit to purchase any kind of fireworks (firecrackers included).For a party, Flash and Maddyboy (these guys can throw a bash, folks), are having a Masquerade Ball at the W Hotel. Cabaret band, DJ, 4 party areas. Here's more info.
Top Tip: Don't get too carried away early in the day with the Mai Tais at the Royal Hawaiian – the strongest on the island. Do so and you might be seeing another kind of fireworks well before midnight.
Weather: What, are you kidding? 

• Key West. Take your pick between a conch shell drop, a pirate "wench" drop from a 110-foot sailboat mast or a Red High Heel Drop featuring a drag queen. The conch shell drops at Sloppy Joe's bar, the wench at Schooner Wharf Bar and the high heel at Bourbon St. Pub/New Orleans House. Fireworks are at the end of White Street Pier over Key West Harbor. Admission and minimum charges apply to Sloppy Joe's and Bourbon Street Pub (upper Duval Street in the 700-800 block). Sloppy Joe's is at the end of Duval Street (201 Duval) and The Schooner Wharf is at 200 Seaport Harbor walk (202 William Street). Key West is mainly a fun couples and friends kind of place, not really a single's mecca. But the odds of mixing go up for certain events like New Year's, Spring Break (especially) and Halloween.
Top Tip: Fly into Miami, rent a convertible and leisurely cruise down the Keys, timing your arrival to sunset at Mallory Square.
Weather: Expect 60s or 70s, (F) low humidity – a rarity for these parts.

• Jost Van Dyke, British Virgin Islands. This is a two-day (and night) party on the beach. Foxy's, one of the most famous bars in all the Caribbean, hosts an annual concert on the beach that brings in a few thousand rum-running revelers. The Beach Boys have played in the past. WithBVI drinks such as the Pain Killer or Bushwacker it's a true tropical paradise. Caribbean BBQ on the beach 30th and 31st, $30. Full dinner and open bar option, $275. Another option is Myett's, a very cool tropical bar with tropical band at Cane Garden Bay. Yes, Parrotheads, the Cane Garden Bay of Jimmy Buffett's "Manana" song.
Top Tip: Wear a mask to fit in with the crowd. Plus, it's okay to sleep on the beach and retreat to another island the next morning when the ferry arrives.
Weather: W arm, subtropical, and sometimes humid, with temperatures moderated by trade winds. Expect 70s or even 80s, possible humidity. In other words, wear shorts.

• London. There is no official event but officials estimate that about 400,000 people will be SOMEWHERE in central London because there are free Underground rides until 0430 in the morning (tubes; trains will run to 0500. Free service begins at midnight). Trafalgar Square is one hot destination. Another destination is the London Eye which in the past has has put on laser shows.
Top Tip: Dress for the weather.
Weather: Cold, rain very possible.

• Miami/South Beach. Much like its varied culture, variety is the spice of Miami life for New Year's Eve. We'll start with the ever-popular South Beach. Models, artists, and "regular" revelers make up the thousands waking the streets, crowding the bars and attending swanky affairs. College students and alumni from the Orange Bowl teams are also prevalent. The fireworks show over the ocean is a prized attraction. South Beach doesn't come cheap – even "inexpensive" rooms away from Ocean Ave., go for $150 or so a night. Ask for water and it's the bottled variety, usually at $3.50 a clip. There will be some wild parties. Just be prepared to pay. The lobby of the Delano hotel is always crowded, mainly with non-guests. For the several famous high-end hotel pool scenes, one has to be a guest.

There is, of course, much more to Miami than South Beach. Bayfront Park is having a free fireworks show over the bay with bands and entertainment. Gates open at 7 with the show starting at 8 (Bayfront Park Amphitheater 301 N. Biscayne Blvd.). In the same area, the Big Orange Festival drops a 35-foot orange ball orange from the adjacent The Hotel Inter-Continental at Chopin Plaza. The ball starts to rise at 6 p.m., to a laser show and fireworks. It's all free and there are plenty of watering holes in the indoor/outdoor Bayshore mall. DJs start cranking at 5 to set the party atmosphere and the "Big Orange" starts its decent at 9 p.m. (Hotel InterContinental Miami, 100 Chopin Plaza.

The Orange Bowl is always a big deal (game day is Jan. 1, 8 p.m., and will likely feature either Virginia Tech or Boston College against Cincinnati) but the bigger deal is the BCS National Championship on Jan. 8. This "Fan Fest" for the latter features live bands among other activities and takes palce at Bicentennial Park in downtown Miami from 3-9 p.m. But there is no parade; this was a Miami tradition for years.Finally, there are other choices away from most tourists. Coconut Grove is a locals' hangout near the University of Miami and party cruise ships offer one- and two-night excursions to Bermuda.
Top Tip: In South Beach, make the maximum ATM withdrawal and don't check the credit card receipts until you return home.
Weather: Bring suntan lotion. Solid 70s, likely sunny, slight humidity.

• Paris. Crowds pack around the Eiffel Tower and the Champs Elysses. The Metro is free (up until 12:05 anyway) and be warned they are PACKED. People bring and shoot off fireworks; it's crazy. But fun and harmless.
Top Tip: Avoid the Metro after, say 1800. 

– WHERE NOT TO SPEND NEW YEAR'S EVE –

• New York City. We'll give it this – it's the most famous and recognized celebration in the world. But our comments come directly from locals, people who have grown up in and around the Big Apple. One flat out told us, in typical New York style: "I would NEVER recommend New York for New Year's. Times Square is way too crowded, it's always the coldest day of the year so it's @&*$-ing Freezing!, and there's no place to pee." Then there's this: Several bars offer "free drinks" as part of a NYE package (for a healthy $100-200 charge) but it often takes 15-20 minutes to get that drink and the "specials" may expire before midnight. Still, hundreds of thousands will be celebrating in Times Square (One Times Square at 42nd Street).
Top Tip: Dress warmly and don't be put off by huge crowds everywhere.
Weather: Er, see above.

• Los Angeles. We like LA. Luv it, in fact. But other than the Rose Bowl, there's not a lot going on here. The city – actually the 85 mini-cities which really make up "L.A." – are too spread out to hold one big, central celebration. Some cities do have events but they are mainly too family-oriented to recommend (remember, we're here to party!). House parties, restaurants and bars (minimum charge $50) have events, so promoter parties are where it's happening. For those wanting to see the Rose Bowl Parade, there's two ways to do it. One is to get up really early and be there no later than 6 a.m. (and who wants to do that after NYE!?) and the other is to camp out a couple of days in advance to get a prime spot along the parade route. The parade is Jan. 1 (8 a.m) while the Rose Bowl kicks off at 2:10 p.m. (Pacific Time) and features Penn State against USC.
Top Tip: Hit the beach cities. Manhattan/Hermosa and Huntington/Newport are the best party spots. Hermosa has a gathering at the Pier with bands (not fireworks, though) that will attract several hundred people. There are a half-dozen bars on and around the Pier, but many are small are are sure to have lines by 10 p.m. In Orange County, the place to be is the Costa Mesa Hilton, which is having a party with 10 bands, 14 DJs, seven party rooms, even a casino. Cost is $75 and $175 for VIP. ($100 and $250 at the door).
Weather: Cool at night, perhaps even some drops of rain leading to NYE. But once New Year's Day and the Rose Bowl rolls around, it will be sunny and in the low '70s. As locals know, that means another 50,000 freezing Midwesterners will see this and move to Southern California.

The Male G-Spot
1:18PM on December 27, 2008

You’ve probably spent a considerable amount of time studying the female G-spot: How to find it, how to stimulate it and how to turn a woman into putty with a G-spot orgasm. What most men are far less familiar with is their own male G-spot. That’s right; some of you may be surprised to learn that the prostate is, essentially, the male equivalent of a woman’s G-spot -- and yours is far, far easier to find. We realize that, for some, the idea of exploring this area may be taboo, but if you keep an open mind while reading this article, our advice could lead you to one of the best orgasms you could ever hope for.

Read on as we give you the lowdown on the male G-spot and what it can do for your sex life.

Discovering your G-spot
The male G-spot isn’t all that difficult to find, but it does require a little patience. Lying on your back is generally considered to be the most comfortable position for this, so you’ll probably want to make use of the bed or perhaps a large sofa. The process will be easiest with your legs elevated, which you can do by simply leaning your legs against the wall behind the bed or draping them over the back of the sofa. If you’re still having difficulty reaching the perineum from this position, you can lift your backside further by sliding a pillow or two under your bum.

Once you’ve made yourself as comfortable as possible, start by gently massaging the area surrounding your anus. Most men enjoy having their taint (also known as the perineum) stimulated, and that can certainly be incorporated into this process. Use the soft pad of your index finger while exploring, and be gentle. As you relax further, lube your finger up and let it gently brush across the surface of your anus. Repeat this move several times, each time increasing the pressure slightly. When you’re comfortable enough to begin probing, you should keep things slow and gentle, taking care to relax your sphincter during the process. Once you’ve come in contact with the male G-spot, you’ll recognize it as a small, chestnut-sized bump situated approximately two inches inward.

Stimulating your G-spot
The first step in stimulating the male G-spot is making oneself comfortable. Bathing beforehand can put a man more at ease with the process, so we recommend starting out with a nice hot shower. If you’d like to take that one step further, enemas are not at all uncommon and you may choose to add this to your regimen. Once you’re ready for stimulation, there are a number of methods you can utilize, though we recommend keeping it simple if you’re a novice; a finger will be sufficient for beginners. Regardless, you’ll want a good supply of lubrication on hand, and you’ll want the type specifically created for anal play.

It will take some experimentation to discover what works best for you in terms of stimulation. Return to one of the positions we mentioned earlier (lying on your back with your legs and backside elevated) and repeat the steps you used to located the prostate. As you prepare to stimulate your G-spot, keep in mind that techniques vary greatly. Some men enjoy gentle thrusting movements, and some prefer intense, constant pressure on the prostate itself. You might prefer a mix of the two or something entirely different. The key is to give your body the chance to react and respond; take your time, the orgasm is worth it. It’s also important to note that you may not find any of these methods pleasurable during the first exploration, and that’s perfectly normal; you can always try again in the future.

Don't be ashamed of stimulating the male G-spot; the results can be explosive... 

techniques and toys
Finger
We’ve already mentioned this one, but you shouldn’t limit this method to solo exploration. Believe it or not, many women enjoy performing this type of stimulation in the bedroom, particularly when the resulting orgasms can be so powerful. If you’d like to try something highly erotic, have her give you a blow job while stimulating your prostate.

G-spot goodie: Brace your hands against the back of a sofa and bend over at a 90-degree angle. Spread your legs apart and have your woman get on her knees in front of you. This will allow her to perform oral sex while still being able to stimulate your prostate.

Rim job
There was a time when most women had no idea what a rim job was -- those days are long past, and most are quite savvy with the technique these days. If you’d like to add a little extra ecstasy to your next sex session, bring up the subject of reciprocal rim jobs. It’s quite simple, really: When you’re both fresh out of the bath, use your tongue to gently probe each other’s anuses. The sensation is truly incredible and you’re both sure to enjoy it.

G-spot goodie: Magnify your orgasms by manually stimulating each other during the rim job; toying with her clitoris should lead to a powerful climax for her, and a well-timed hand job will guarantee your own.

Butt plug
If you’d like to combine sex and prostate stimulation, butt plugs are one of the simplest options available on the market. They can be used during blow jobs or actual intercourse. Butt plugs come in a variety of shapes and sizes, so you needn’t worry about the experience being painful or uncomfortable; simply choose the size that meets your requirements.

G-spot goodie: If you’d like to experience something truly incredible, work your PC muscles while penetrating your woman. This will stimulate the male G-spot further than you could possibly imagine.

it's not just for women
While we don’t expect everyone to be immediately comfortable with this type of exploration, we do want to make it clear that it’s perfectly acceptable and in no way strange or perverse. The male G-spot is a powerful gland that can lead to earth-shattering orgasms, and we believe everyone’s entitled to that kind of pleasure. If you’re not ready for this type of play, that’s perfectly understandable and we certainly don’t want you to do anything that doesn’t feel right for you. If, however, you’re open-minded about male G-spot stimulation, we encourage you to try our tips and start working your way toward the ultimate orgasm.

How to Find Your G-Spot (female)
1:13PM on December 27, 2008

The debate over the g-spot seems to never end. Does it exist, is it important, should it be talked about, does it have any usefulness? Definitive answers are rare, so while the experts debate, why not do your own research, and get to the heart (or would it be gheart) of the matter. Many women can stimulate their g-spot using their fingers. Some people will find it easier using a toy that is curved, either a dildo or a vibrator.

Difficulty: N/A

Time Required: You might find your g-spot immediately, or it could take several attempts. Don't pressure yourself.

Here's How:
Avoid performance pressure about the "magic spot".
People can become fixated on achieving a sexual goal (multiple orgasms, simultaneous orgasm, g-spot orgasms) One thing I can promise is that this is the best way to NOT enjoy any sort of sexual encounter. Remember that sexual exploration is mostly about the journey, not the destination (although the destination is better than most, I’ll agree). Try not to make this another notch in your “sexually self-actualized” belt.

Turn yourself on.
Any homework that starts with this is bound to be somewhat fruitful. The spongy area around the g-spot gets engorged with blood when you’re sexually aroused, so it is much easier to find and feel when you’re turned on.

Get comfortable and find the g-spot area.
Lie on your back, squat, or lie on your stomach. Place your palm face down on your vulva and slowly insert a finger inside your vagina (use lube if you’re feeling a little dry), crooking it forward in a “come hither” motion. When you’re up to about the second knuckle you should feel a slightly bumpy or ridged area on the upper wall of your vagina.

Notice how the g-spot feels.
The texture of the g-spot area will likely be noticeably different from the typically smooth walls of the vagina. When you’re aroused it can expand, so feel it at different times during your arousal to get familiar with its contours and sensitivity. The g-spot responds to pressure, so press down and pull forward using that "come hither" motion with your fingers.

Explore the g-spot with toys.
For some it can be awkward to stimulate the g-spot by hand. A g-spot vibrator or dildo can be a great helper in this. Apply a little lube to your toy, and insert it with the tip (if it’s curved) pointing up toward the top wall of your vagina. Work it in slowly, far enough (a couple of inches) so the tip is pressing against your g-spot.

Experiment with pressure and motion.
Some women will find pressure against the g-spot pleasurable, some women like the feeling vibration when a toy is pressing against the g-spot. Experiment and see if either feels good for you. For most women, the g-spot responds to firm pressure. In the beginning, use your toy as if you were trying to scratch an itch—don’t pull the toy all the way out, but use short strokes, applying firm pressure, against the g-spot.

Vary the movements.
A circular or back-and-forth motion may be necessary to get you started, but you might soon graduate to a more vigorous thrusting. If you’ve got a vibrator, try playing with the vibrations both on and off to see which you like better.

Add clitoral stimulation to g-spot play.
You’ll know you’re hitting the spot as you feel tingly sensations, the urge to pee, and an overall elevation in your arousal. When you feel the urge to come, stimulate your clitoris using your favorite method. Keep stroking your g-spot.

Let go.
With continued stimulation, you’ll eventually feel a sensation much like having to pee. This can be quite disconcerting at first, and has probably led plenty of women to abandon the process, but if you stick with it you’ll be in for a pleasant surprise. You may or may not ejaculate, but ejaculation is perfectly normal (and it's not urine).

If you don’t at first orgasm, try try again. It can take several practice sessions before you notice any build up. Try varying your position, using a different toy, experimenting with breathing and kegel exercises (to strengthen your PC muscle), or having a partner help you. Because the g-spot is most responsive when aroused, you may also want to try stimulating it after you’ve had an orgasm.

Remember the ear lobe.
Experimenting with the g-spot can be fun, and you never know what you’ll learn in the process. But try not to get hung up on this being a mind-blowing experience. If you’re playing around and it’s not doing anything for you, try something else, and know that there is nothing wrong with you, and what turns us all on is incredibly individual and unique.

The G-Spot (female)
1:09PM on December 27, 2008

The G-Spot

We have both ends of the spectrum here - couples who devote the entire weekend trying to find the elusive G Spot; then we have females who are all upset because they think they pee'd the bed during sex, and are so embarrassed they are reluctant to get into sex again for fear they flood the bedroom!

Anatomically, the G Spot cannot be found as such; it is believed to be a small spongy pad that wraps around the urethra. If that pad is stimulated through the vaginal wall during sexual arousal, it can be very exciting.

The G Spot is a small area, (about 1 inch diameter) inside the vagina, up about an inch and half to two inches. Appropriate stimulation will cause the female to take a deep breath and push down real hard. Most women describe the sensation as feeling they want to urinate - they have a powerful urge to "bear down", same sensation of pushing when delivering a baby. They take a deep breath, hold it and push right down to their bottom.

During G Spot orgasm, a large amount of fluid may suddenly gush out through the urethra. It is difficult to estimate how much fluid is expelled. I have heard amounts ranging from one cup to 2 quarts. The G Spot fluid is colourless, (urine is yellow), it smells sweet like clover, (urine smells like urine), it does not stain the mattress, (urine certainly does).

Every woman who has experienced G Spot orgasm has a different way of getting there. But there is a common thread through their stories. Usually it happens when:

- she is in a high trust relationship where she does not worry what she looks like, sounds like or smells like; she is confident.
- she is very, very sexually aroused. She has possibly had one or more orgasms just prior to reaching G Spot orgasm.
- she reaches a certain point and she just has to push down.
- she can feel the fluid spurting out and it feels wonderful.
- after that orgasm, women will tell you they feel completely depleted, they can hardly walk to the bathroom.
- it the best sex possible.

Some women say they have easy G Spot orgasms with one partner and unable to get there with another. Some women are able to stimulate themselves to G Spot orgasms, others just can't.

Some women get tired of having a perpetually wet bed, so they take a green garbage bag, cut up one side and across the top. Open it up, then take a flannelette sheet or big beach towel, pin it to all four corners of the garbage bag. Then roll this up lengthwise and put it just under her side of the bed, within easy reach. Then if she decided that "tonight's the night, ain't nobody gonna stop me now", she reaches under the bed, rolls the sheet/bag under her hips. Her partner knows what that means, and away they go.

Take the pressure off yourself. Some females ejaculate on a regular basis, some can make it happen, for others it is an amazing accident, and some women just do not ejaculate. But sex is pleasurable and enjoyable and satisfying if you do or don't hit that elusive G spot.

If you want more information, check out THE GOOD VIBRATIONS GUIDE TO THE G SPOT by CATHY WINKS, published by DOWN THERE PRESS. We also recommend UNDERSTANDING THE G SPOT by DONALD HICKS.

If you are curious about the chemical make up of G Spot fluid as compared to urine, do get the pocketbook The G SPOT by LADAS, WHIPPLE AND PERRY, published by DELL POCKETBOOKS.

Sexy Christmas gift idea 4 your partner
2:39PM on December 25, 2008

Are you in the need for a unique and creative Christmas gift for your partner, but just can't seem to find that one special Christmas gift? Why not make your partner a homemade Naughty Sexy Christmas basket? What is a naughty sexy Christmas basket? Well, it's a basket that contains naughty or sexy items to pleasure you and your partner like a sex a gram, chocolates, edible Christmas underwear, oils, or really anything you want. You can make this Naughty sexy Christmas basket a little naughty, real naughty, or extremely naughty all depends on your taste and what you and your partner are into as far as sex and romance.

The naughty Christmas basket is very easy to create, unique, fun, and very pleasurable. You can give your partner a Christmas to remember in a matter of minutes by using your imagination. Even though you're the one giving the naughty sexy Christmas basket to your partner it will definitely benefit the two of you in more ways than one. This basket idea can be used or made for Christmas, Valentines Day, Anniversary, honeymoon, birthday, or just because I love you.

Why spend a fortune on a Christmas gift when you can make your own. 90 % of retailers on-line will charge at least $70-200 for a holiday basket. By making your own more love is put into it, less money, more fun, and homemade is the best, because it comes from your heart. Maybe you and your partner need to spice the romance up a notch or add a little spice. I'm sure the naughty sexy basket will do just that and beyond. So are you ready to make your own naughty sexy Christmas basket, in the need for love, or want to play Santa well here's your chance.

Items needed to create a Naughty Sexy Christmas basket

Chocolates

Edible underwear

Sex a Gram

Flavored & edible condoms

Favorable lubricants for him & her

Lingerie

Rose petals either real or fake

Colored Cellophane or colored Saran wrap

Erotic love notes

Cherries or Chocolate covered strawberries

Massager

Sensual oils

Arousal gel

Watermelon body dust or flavor of choice

How to give a WOMAN a Hand Job
3:58PM on July 18, 2008

How To Give a Handjob to a Woman

By Cory Silverberg, Updated: June 6, 2008

1. Deal with your hang-ups, embrace the “mystery.”
Regardless of your gender, our society doesn’t offer a lot of information about female genitals. We do get a lot of myth and misinformation about the clitoris, vagina, and vulva and often people think of it as a dark and mysterious place they can’t fully understand. The idea of mystery isn’t bad, as long as you know that it’s a mystery that can be discovered, not something that will always be confusing and misunderstood. If you have any psychological hang-ups about female genitals they will get in the way of a great handjob.

2. Know your audience.
We all like different kinds of stimulation at different times, and most of us have general preferences for the intensity of stimulation. We also all come to the handjob realm with a history, positive and negative. Women with painful histories maybe fearful or cautious when approached by even the most loving hands. A casual conversation (not before or during sex) about each of your handjob pasts can yield some important background information. And if you’re not comfortable asking what she likes directly, there are other ways to gauge what works and what doesn’t.

3. Whatever you do, start slowly.
Most important is a handjob that brings enthusiasm and adventure AND the ability to start slow and pay attention. As you touch her pay attention to the movement of your fingers, how much pressure you’re applying, the speed of your fingers and where you are touching her. At the same time pay attention to what’s going on for her. Is she making happy noises? Is she moving her body? You can also solicit simple feedback during the handjob (“you like?” “you want more”), although too much talking or too many questions can get distracting.

4. Female genital anatomy and you.
If you’re used to male genitals it can be hard at first to feel comfortable with a woman’s body which may seem “hidden.” In fact there’s no anatomical mystery you can learn as much about a woman’s body as a man’s. Having a familiarity with the fundamentals of female genital anatomy can help both in the specifics (e.g. knowing where there are lots of nerve endings and where there are fewer) and also in a general way it might give you greater confidence going in.

5. Know her hotspots.
Most of the terms used for female handjobs (like “fingering”) can be misleading if you think that’s all there is to it. Aside from knowing where most of her sensation will be, the clitoris, remember that the whole area, including her inner thighs and bum, can produce amazingly pleasurable sensations. Either by asking or by exploring, learn where her hotspots are. You’ll also find that some areas call for more vigorous stimulation than others. So the way you touch the clitoris may be very different than the way you touch the labia.

6. How giving a handjob is like reading a story.
Like most good stories, a handjob has a beginning middle and end. There are no rules about these being equal or being a certain length. You may want the handjob to end when you’re both ready to have another kind of sex, or you may want it to end with an orgasm. But thinking about giving a handjob as if it’s like telling your partner a story can help keep you tuned into two crucial elements of a good handjob, pacing and connection.

7. Building up, coming down, getting off.
Keeping a good pace during the handjob is crucial. In most cases you want to start slow (with lots of light touch and teasing), building up to a steady stimulation, and then intensifying to the point of orgasm. Stopping in the middle, starting too fast and rough, or trying to use light stimulation after you’ve been stroking hard for a while, probably won’t work. There’s no formulae for the right pacing, but experiment and pay attention to your partners response (e.g. deeper breaths, more moaning, increased body tension) and let that be your guide.

8. Making contact.
What separates a handjob from masturbation is both the excitement of the unknown, but also the fact that it’s someone else giving you pleasure. Keeping a tight connection between you and your partner during a handjob will exponentially increase the quality and satisfaction. Whether it’s making eye contact, allowing yourself to make noises as she does, or touching other parts of her body with a free hand (or other parts of your body), anything you can do to attune yourself to her experience will help you in focusing on the pleasure of the moment rather than thinking about what you’re going to next.

9. Use your hands to get a lay of the land.
The first time you’re touching your partner using your hands and fingers, feel your way around, but take time to really feel her. It’s not just about fumbling your way to the clitoris or vaginal opening. Notice the difference in how the outer labia feel and how the inner labia feel. How does the perineum feel different than the pubic mound? One thing I recommend is to pay attention as if you had to describe what you’re feeling to someone who had never felt it before.

10. Fingers, pads and tips.
Your hands and fingers offer a variety of tools to touch with. You can use the length of your finger and the knuckles to create very different sensations and pressure. You can use the pad of your fingers (which is the flat part you see when you open your hand and turn it toward you. The pads have a bit of padding and a little texture to them. You also have the tips of your fingers and fingernails, both of which create more pointed sensations.

11. 1,000 ways to touch.
With fingers, run the length of your finger along the skin. Roll your fingers back and forth. Use fingers for penetration. You can use your fingertips to isolate skin and gently apply pressure to it, squeezing it between two fingers. Use the pads of your fingers to gently, or not so gently, tap rhythmically. Brush your pads or finger tips back and forth across an area to create more intense, vibrator like stimulation. These are just a few ideas, the point is to experiment and find ways of touching that feel good to you and your partner.

12. Move in all directions.
You may be tempted to see female genitals as a vertical space, and as a result all your hand movements maybe be up and down. Don’t fall into that trap. Many women like the feeling of fingers rubbing their clitoris in a side-to-side motion. Others will love a twisty or circular motion. And of course you can play with building up one kind of motion and then switching to the same intensity but in opposite direction.

13. The clitoris is 3-D.
If you think the clitoris is like a button on the surface of the body that just needs to be pressed with the right amount of pressure, or the right number of times, you’re missing the boat. Think about the clitoris as sticking out, having a top a bottom and sides. Play with all the edges before you come swooping in from above, and see what works. Some women report preferring stimulation on one side of their clitoris more than the other. Don’t forget that the clitoris extends deep into the body, so deep massage of the whole area can be pleasurable once she’s already aroused.

14. Going in.
Not all women want penetration, but many like it as part of a handjob. As always, start slow and with one finger. You can play with the depth of penetration, the speed, and also the kind of pressure you apply once you’re inside the vagina. Gentle pressure, applied firmly to the front wall can be pleasurable for some women (and may stimulate the g spot). You can also play with twisting your wrist so that your fingers turn. If you’re using your fore or middle finger for penetration you can provide clitoral stimulation with your thumb or other part of your hand depending on how your positioned.

15. Become a multi-tasker.
When women are surveyed for the fastest and most desirable way for them to have an orgasm very often they report that simultaneous clitoral stimulation and vaginal penetration with fingers is choice #1. It’s not something everyone can do, but once you’re comfortable and having fun with handjobs, think about how you can create two kinds of stimulation at two different points, at the same time.

Tips:

1. Forget about porn.
In most cases it’s safe to say that the sex you see in porn isn’t a good example to follow, but I would say this is especially true of handjobs for women. Most of the sex in porn simply isn’t real. There is no build up and far too much banging and slapping which, even if you like that (and some women do) you need to build up to. So with very few exceptions, put everything you’ve seen in mainstream pornography out of your mind when your hands head south.

2. Wetter is better.
If your partner consistently has a lot of vaginal lubrication you may not want to add more personal lubricant, but the fact is that having more lubrication can intensify the stimulation, so in this case more is rarely worse. Sticking with a water-based or silicone-based lubricant is probably the best idea.

3. Learn from a master.
One of the best ways to learn is to ask that your partner masturbate for you. If they’re shy you can suggest they wear a blindfold (it may be surprising, but it really helps). Watch how they do it, the kinds of strokes they use, where they are stimulating themselves the most, and the pacing they use from beginning to end.

4. Adding vibration.
Vibrators can be a great addition to a handjob, and you should never feel that using one somehow lessens your skill or craft. If you haven’t used one before during a handjob I recommend that you turn it on and put it in her hand so she can show you where she likes vibration, what the speed and pressure of the vibration should be. You can also learn more about using vibrators for women to get some pointers.

5. Avoid over stimulation.
With too much friction and too much rough stimulation the clitoris can become over stimulated and essentially feel a bit numb. When this happens it’s usually very difficult for the woman to climax no matter how much stimulation you provide. It can be hard to know where the line is, and it requires a bit of communication. Be sure to ask if your being too vigorous and as always, pay attention to non-verbal cues like breathing, facial expressions and movement.

20 Helpful Hints for Women To Reach Orgasm
4:04PM on July 14, 2008

A Sex Therapy Information Guide
20 Helpful Hints for Women To Reach Orgasm
by Cynthia Lief Ruberg, MS Ed, LPCC, FAACS

A common concern I hear from my female clients involves difficulty in reaching orgasm. Here are some hints that I have found to be helpful:

PSYCHOLOGICAL HINTS:

1) Anticipate the Sexual Encounter--Many women find that if they spend some time fantasizing about an upcoming sexual encounter, they can use their minds (imagination) to "turn themselves on" physically, as well as emotionally. It also helps for women to learn to identify what turns them on in their environment (i.e., romantic or erotic stories, love songs, videos, etc.) and use this material in anticipation of a sexual encounter. This process of "starting on warm" can help to make reaching "the end" easier.

2) Get Relaxed--Most women require a transition or "down time" in order to be opened-up to receiving sexual pleasure. This is because emotional tension negatively interferes with sexual response. So, listen to music, take a hot bath, read a book, do "whatever works" to get relaxed. Being in a relaxed mode is very helpful to achieving orgasm.

3) Eliminate Distractions--Women frequently find that their minds are cluttered with distractions such as "to do" lists, worries about privacy, too much light in the room, too much noise, pets in the room, etc. Identifying one's distractions and then eliminating them before sex can help a woman to focus on her body and her good feelings so that orgasm is easier to achieve. Distractions of any kind usually sabotage the sexual focus needed for most women to reach orgasm.

4) Eliminate Anger--It is hard to make love to a porcupine---and that is how many women feel when they are angry at their partner. Anger distances people. It is necessary for most women to work on eliminating angry and hurt feelings so that they can feel intimately connected with their partner. Most women require connection at the heart before they can truly connect with their genitals.

5) Get Comfortable with Your Body and Its Imperfections--Learning to appreciate and accept one's body is key to good sexual responsiveness. Obsessing over body imperfections--how it looks, feels, smells, or tastes, etc., may sabotage sexual response and certainly can interfere with orgasm. Such obsessing interferes with sexual arousal. In other words, the mind gets in the way of the body's response. It is good to remember that most men get more turned on by an interested and interesting partner rather than by a perfect body.

6) Get Into an Erotic Focus During Sex--This requires putting the mind in an erotic mode so that the mind can boost physical arousal. This can be done by following in "the mind's eye" what one's partner is doing (to you) physically. It may require imagery of an erotic or romantic scene or fantasy that is a turn on. Perhaps, best of all is being turned on by watching one's partner and/or looking into each other's eyes. But this might not be possible because many women need closed eyes to focus in order to reach orgasm.

7) Concentrate--As arousal builds, most women need to concentrate on their pleasurable feelings (especially those in the clitoris and/or vagina), and on their growing excitement. Concentration, which usually excludes verbal responses, is part of the erotic focus necessary for many women to reach orgasm.

8) Get Out of The "Real Way" Trap--Many people of both genders mistakenly believe that "the real way" to orgasm is only through vaginal intercourse. Other ways of achieving orgasm, such as by clitoral stimulation (manually or orally), do not count to these people because these orgasms are deemed inferior to a "vaginal orgasms." This false belief (which originated with Sigmund Freud) still causes many modern women to think they are broken, abnormal or inferior because they can not orgasm "the real way." Please remember: The majority of women orgasm most effectively with clitoral stimulation or vaginal stimulation assisted by clitoral stimulation, not by vaginal stimulation alone, and that is okay and fine! Many women will never orgasm just by vaginal stimulation alone. All orgasms are valid no matter how they happen to occur. Trying to orgasm the "real way" can trap people into worrying about sexual performance and can certainly inhibit orgasm.

9) Make Time For Play--People frequently leave lovemaking for very late hours, when bodies just need sleep. If people would "make time for play" (not necessarily foreplay), protect that time and not wait for spontaneous encounters, they would be more assured of good sex. This is especially meaningful for women because it is easier to reach orgasm when feeling energized rather than tired and weary.

PHYSICAL HINTS:

1) Become an Expert On Your Own Body--Learning about your body and its responses is essential for most women to reach orgasm reliably. The idea is to take control of your body and personally get in touch with your responses, then teach your partner what kind of touch is most pleasurable. Remember, he is not the expert only on his body! Your are! Women who haven't learned about their bodies are not able to know what they like sexually. These women are often not orgasmic because they haven't learned what works for them.

2) Communicate Openly--Open communication is essential for sexual satisfaction because people are not mind readers. Spoken communication is clearest, but guiding your partner's hand or prearranged cues may work as well. Open communication about sex takes honesty, trust, respect and the ability to take risks.

3) Be Sure Your Partner is "On the Mark"-- If your partner is off target when stimulating your body, you won't ever reach orgasm. So, make sure you convey where you need to be touched as well as what you like best.

4) Exaggerate Sexual Tension--With physical arousal it is natural for one's muscles to tense up as orgasm approaches. This happens in both sexes, but is more noticeable in women. Exaggerating this muscle tension may help to trigger an orgasm.

5) Squeeze those Muscles--Contracting the muscles around the vagina (called PC muscles) helps to bring blood to the genitals and thus builds arousal. These are also the muscles that contract with orgasm. Squeezing the PC muscles (called Kegel Exercises) may help to trigger orgasm and may make orgasm more intense.

6) Hang Your Head--Hanging your head over the side of the bed may trigger orgasm. In some women this may heighten arousal and sexual tension. If nothing else, this position will be a distraction from "trying too hard" and hence may lead to orgasm.

7) Breathe Differently--Varying breathing patterns may also add to sexual arousal and can trigger orgasm.

8) Be a Tease--Teasing yourself or allowing your partner to tease you by touching your "pleasure spots," then withdrawing the touch over and over again, is a very effective way to build arousal and heighten orgasm.

9) Practice Letting Go--Orgasm rehearsal (in private) is often helpful for women who have trouble relinquishing control. Practicing orgasms, including making noises and "funny" faces, may help to gain comfort and reduce anxiety about having orgasms. This may help in the process of learning to orgasm.

10) Be superior--For women who want to "work on" their orgasms with intercourse, the female superior position (on top) generally works best. This position allows a woman to take control of intercourse, thus allowing maximum stimulation. In this way, she can control the tempo of intercourse, the depth of penile thrusting (or sliding movements), and the clitoral stimulation. The female superior position is especially good for women who have personal issues that require the need to feel in total control sexually.

11) Use Toys If You Like--If you are comfortable with the use of sex toys, vibrators can be a fun way to help "get there" reliably and easily. They take "the work" out of trying to orgasm and can also take pressure off your partner because your pleasure then becomes your own responsibility. Vibrators work best when you hold it on yourself. Vibrators can be used (held on the clitoris) for sexual play or during sexual intercourse to facilitate the path to orgasm.

Do you have a problem with porn?
4:00PM on July 14, 2008

Found this interesting............
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Do You Have a Problem with Porn?
(06/21/2008)

by Wendy Maltz LCSW, DST & Larry Maltz LCSW

Porn is available anywhere, any time these days – on the Internet, cable television, cell phones, iPods, and more. Unlike just a decade ago, it’s often free and difficult to avoid. In fact, you can see more porn in a few minutes online than most people saw during their entire lifetime a generation ago. And today’s porn offers a plethora of images that cater to many tastes and temperaments, from soft-core porn to things like bondage, violent sexual acts, and child sexual abuse. It also has the power to shape sexual interests and behaviors, and create negative consequence in people’s emotional, physical, social, relationship, and spiritual lives like never before.

It’s no wonder that more and more porn users are asking themselves, “Do I have a problem with porn?” Perhaps, you are one of them, or you may know someone who is.

A quick way to examine whether porn has become (or is becoming) a problem in your life is to ask yourself these five questions:

1. Is porn hurting my sex life with a partner — or my chances of having a satisfying sex life with a partner?
There is no doubt that porn is a highly effective sexual stimulant. Watching it can turn you on and “spice things up” with a partner. But what you may not realize is that too much exposure, especially over a long period of time, can seriously harm your sexuality.

Porn can easily go from being something that can enhance a sexual experience to something that funnels sexual energy away from a partner or potential partner until IT becomes the primary object of your sexual desires. By misleading you about what is realistic and healthy (mutual pleasure, full-body sensuality, and love), porn can end up teaching you a self-centered, voyeuristic, genitally-focused approach to sex that can turn an intimate partner (or future intimate partner) off. And if you try to hide your porn use, the lying and secrecy will undermine the honesty, trust, respect, and closeness in your intimate relationship.

2. Is porn use decreasing my self-esteem and respect for others?
Porn isn’t good for you if it makes you feel bad about yourself in the long run. Ted, a twenty-six year old former porn user, told us that he became “disgusted” with him self for getting off on porn, being so attached to it, and lying to others about what he was doing. “I desired porn physically, but in my heart I knew it wasn’t what I wanted to do,” he said.

When you fantasize and act in sexual ways that go against what you value and want for yourself and for others, you end up conflicted and distressed. You may feel anxious, defensive, depressed, guilty, ashamed, and isolated. Porn use that causes you to be dishonest, deceitful, or hypocritical is obviously not good for you – the price is too high when porn costs you your integrity and healthy sense of connection with others.

3. Is using porn interfering with other parts of my life, such as doing my job well, studying for school, getting enough sleep, or spending time with my family?
While using porn may start out as “a little fantasy entertainment on the side,” many people find themselves sucked in by the game-like nature of finding new and different images that turn them on. As a result, it can eat up increasing amounts of time with detrimental consequences. Charlie, a thirty-three year old computer specialist, recalls how time spent with porn hurt his career and relationships. “I wasted huge tracks of time on porn and fell behind in my work. I was spending three to four hours a day on something that had no benefit to me as far as becoming a better person, gaining skills, understanding the world better, or enhancing my relationships with other people.”

4. Has my porn use become addictive or compulsive?
Porn use can be highly addictive. Studies have found that regular exposure acts on your brain and body much like regular use of drugs or tobacco. Porn creates a triple feel-good cocktail — it sexually excites, provides a fantasy escape, and creates a feeling of relaxation following orgasm. You may wonder how something that you don't actually ingest can alter your brain chemistry and physiology, but just because something enters your body through your eyes and ears and not your mouth, doesn't mean it's not getting in and doing damage. Regular porn users often report that in time they find themselves needing more of it and more graphic, risky, and intense images to get the desired effect. Some porn users experience unpleasant withdrawal symptoms, such as irritability and difficulty sleeping, when deprived of porn.

Signs of a porn addiction include craving porn intensely and persistently, being unable to control your use or stop, and continuing to use it despite your encountering serious problems with it. Bonnie, a former porn addict said, “After a while, Internet porn took on a life of its own. Rather than me using it, it was controlling me. I lost the power to say no.”

5. Is porn use leading to risky, dangerous, or illegal behaviors?
It’s easy to lose perspective on what you’re doing and risking when you’re under the seductive spell of porn. A relationship with porn can become a living nightmare when it leads to the break-up of a relationship, loss of a job, rejection from your friends and family, or trouble with the law. Unfortunately, someone who is “high” on porn may not see these disasters lurking right around the corner, or they may fool themselves into thinking they’re too smart to get in trouble. Rob, a recovering porn addict, said, “Porn felt good in the moment, but then it just took me down. When I got busted for downloading child porn, it cost me everything I cherished — I lost my lovely wife, my two beautiful kids, a well-paying job, and a big beautiful house. Clever as I thought I was, I never saw it coming.”

A “yes” answer to any one of the five questions above can indicate a problem with porn and the need to take action to address it.

BREAKING AWAY FROM PORN As with other health concerns, the sooner you recognize problems and get help, the easier it is to recover. You have to acknowledge the problem, find support for making healthier choices, deal with the negative repercussions of past porn use, and learn new, healthier approaches to sexual relationships and intimacy. Our book, The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography offers many ideas for accomplishing these goals and provides a roadmap to successful healing and long-term recovery.

The benefits of recovering from a harmful porn habit are well worth the effort. As Derek said, “Now that I’ve stopped using porn, I feel better about myself as a human being. I’m able to be more present and connected with other people. I’ve stopped sexually objectifying everyone. For the first time in my life I feel here and sexually healthy.”

Wendy Maltz LCSW, DST, is an internationally recognized sex therapist, author, and lecturer. Larry Maltz LCSW is the executive director of Maltz Counseling Services in Eugene, Oregon. They are coauthors of The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography (Collins, 2008).

Positive Quotes
12:32AM on July 12, 2008

About the Scorpion
12:19AM on July 12, 2008

Traditional Scorpio Traits

Determined and forceful
Emotional and intuitive
Powerful and passionate
Exciting and magnetic



On the dark side....

Jealous and resentful
Compulsive and obsessive
Secretive and obstinate

Back again
5:56PM on May 19, 2008

So I've got internet back in my bedroom again, making it much easier to post more often. I want to be more active here and start meeting new people again, of course keep up with the ones I already know........!

IM BACK BITCHES... lol ;]